Diabetes Jokes

You already know where this blog is going, don't you? That's right! Easter arrived and the classic Diabetes "jokes" hit social media, as they do each and every year. Oh, how we didn't laugh again.

I understand why people try to be funny online. Sometimes, I make a funny on Twitter and it gets a lot of attention. The likes and comments feed into our need for... likes and comments? It makes us feel good to get positive attention by making others happy. Of course, what is funny to some is not funny to others. That's why we enjoy different jokes and the different comedians, I guess. 

I'm old enough to JUST remember the notorious famous comedians of the 1980s. Roy "Chubby" Brown, Jim Davidson, Bernard Manning, et al. Their routines were largely based around sexism, racism, ableism and generally being incredibly offensive. As we edged into the 90s, such characters became less popular and their acts were only seen at British seaside towns such as Blackpool. Eventually, they faded away from the public eye as comedy rapidly cleaned up its act after the turn of the millennium.

Phew! So, that's that. The nation grew up and we enjoy "smart" comedy now. We do, don't we?

Step forward Richard Osman. Much respected co-host of Pointless, host of House of Games and occasional sofa warmer on The One Show. Richard is widely regarded as a bright chap. He comes across as witty yet warm and friendly. Certainly not the sort of comedian to compare to Manning & Co. So, it was a surprise to read this tweet on Easter Sunday morning:

UPDATE: Richard deleted the above tweet and tweeted an apology here: https://twitter.com/richardosman/status/1379101305164201991?s=19

I am almost certain that Richard is not a malicious chap. The nature of the tweet isn't aggressive, in my eyes. It seems he is trying to raise a smile with a little poetic humour. 

It's not funny.

It's actually very damaging.

Richard has over one million Twitter followers and that kind of social media clout can certainly influence the thoughts of many people. That kind of ignorance can breed stigma, it can breed bullying and it can breed the discrimination many people living with diabetes face. It's ableism. Now that a well known TV personality has published this tweet and (at the time of publishing this blog) has not deleted it or offered an apology for the offence caused, it would seem only logical that young minds, ignorant minds and those who enjoy bullying and upsetting others will repeat it. Perhaps a child will say the same words to another, at school, after the Easter break? Well, Richard from the TV said it! It must be alright.

It's not alright.

Diabetes (note; I'm not referring to type here because ALL types) is recognised as a disability. It appears to be one of the last disabilities that is acceptable to use as a punchline.

It's not acceptable.

Some have replied to Richard's tweet to give him advice on this. Richard replied to a positive comment and (so far) hasn't addressed a single person who explained what the problem is. Silence.

"Lighten up!" exclaimed one .I was almost expecting a "It's only banter, mate!" reply. Obviously the "Joke Police" got a mention. Where would we be without someone referring to The Joke Police, The Thought Police, etc? Thank goodness for that particular reply! Calling out people who make discriminatory comments must have been the issue all along! 

I'll drop the sarcasm.

We all make mistakes. Only last year, I retracted a tweet which wrongly mentioned age and sex. That tweet had a lot of likes and retweets but I recognised that I was wrong to mention anything other than a particular person being a monumental idiot. That was the end of that and that's all Richard needs to do. A simple apology and tweet deletion. He'd regain the good faith of the fans he's lost and, who knows? maybe gain increased respect for acknowledging his offensive tweet and perhaps become even more loved than he was before last Sunday morning.

Joke about your own conditions and disabilities, by all means. Leave everybody else alone.

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Freak Like Me

 

I'm sorry about the photo. I know scary clowns are a little too scary for some! Ignore him and look at these words instead:

Disability discrimination

It's at this moment that I expect the vast majority of you to leave. That doesn't surprise me. The subject of ableism appears to turn off a good number of people. It's uncomfortable for many, as seeing disability is, as my own disabilities are.

In an earlier blog, I mentioned a time in my childhood when I first encountered hate towards disability. It was 40 years ago and I suspect if it happened today, in this country, there would have been far more serious repercussions for the perpetrator. Thankfully, things have improved for people living with a disability. I haven't experienced anything beyond schoolyard jokes (apart from one incident in a pub) and comments since... well, school. One of the latter experiences of school ableism was a time when I was referred to as a "freak". I'm pretty laid back and can sometimes turn hatred into a joke. That ability saved me from bullies on several occasions, that and having a few very tough friends. Obviously (watch it!) that was quite a while ago but that doesn't mean it has gone away.

My experiences of ableism revolve around Internet communities. I suspect that to be the case for other forms of discrimination. We hear a lot about racism directed towards sportspeople via social media. It's a massive problem, along with other forms of discrimination and hate, but I'm aware that it isn't only dished out by bigots with keyboards. The same applies for ableism. Just because I haven't experienced it in real life recently doesn't mean it isn't there and isn't happening to others frequently.

This is a tweet from my friend, Meg

Pretty nasty, huh? I don't get it. Is it funny to shout out remarks and mock strangers in the street? I know the answer, of course but what is going though the minds of people who do this? Are they living a troubled life and openly mocking a woman with a disability makes things better for them? I have so many questions. Perhaps it IS funny to them and can be spun as "banter" as many incidents of hate are. 

"I was only joking, mate!"

Oh, right. My bad. I thought I was the circus freak, doing the funnies, not you. 

It's very easy to search social media and find other instances of a similar nature. Sometimes, you don't need to search. It might just appear on your timeline because it's one of your friends who has experienced it. Support your friends/followers, please. If they are brave enough to mention their disabilities and why something is hurtful then the first thing you do is believe them. Don't tell them they're being sensitive or reply with various hashtags, sarcastically referring to "Thought policing". Don't suggest they report the tweet if they find it offensive, either. We all know Twitter aren't acting on any ableism because we, the disabled, cannot possibly be offended or stigmatised!

This has become a slightly ranty little blog and for that I make no apologies. Please:

- Do not mock or shout hurtful comments towards disabled people. This may be considered a hate crime in the UK.

- Do not joke about disability in any form unless it's YOUR OWN disability.

- Do not suggest things to "improve" a service which completely alienates people with a disability. That sort of ableist trash is all over social media. If you have an idea then consider accessibility before anything else. If somebody calls you out on it then adjust your idea or remove it. 

Why wouldn't a person do those things as a basic starting point? Perhaps they don't like a disabled person, being superior to them by noting their discriminatory nature.

I'll put my soapbox away, until next time.

Thank you so much for reading this blog. I do appreciate your visit and your support. As you might know, I LOVE COFFEE! So I've teamed up with a thing called Buy Me A Coffee. If you enjoy my content and appreciate the time it takes to create such things then you can buy me a coffee! If you leave your Twitter @ name when you buy me a coffee, I will personally thank you. If you'd rather be anonymous then that's totally cool. Thanks for the caffeine!

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