Let The Storm Rage On

...the cold never bothered me anyway? Well, tis (almost) the season for such movies. You might have realised from the image above that this isn't a blog post about Frozen or Christmas  Instead, I'd like to talk about everyone's favourite subject; social media. Gah! I know quite a lot of you are now going to close this window, unfollow me, throw away your phone and report me to the police. I might deserve some of that! I mean, have you READ my tweets?! Jeez!

For the handful of you who remain, let's get into it. Sometimes, I "do a lot of socials" and not just for myself. From time to time, I work for others (volunteered and paid roles) alongside my own blathering. It's cool, I like the interactions and social media has opened a world of experiences for me. It's helped my health, too. My T1D is unrecognisable from what it used to be just 6 or 7 years ago. That's an incredible thing if you really consider it. It also paints the general population in a great light, especially diabetics, as they are the driving force behind my current diabetes management and stable health.

I've thanked the online diabetes community in several blog posts and posts on socials. They truly are a great bunch and if you're new to that world, embrace it and soak up all the info and support that you need. In other posts, I've issued warnings to people to be cautious online. Despite the majority of people having no agenda but to assist others and gain their own support, there will always be a minority who are looking for something else. What are those things? The list is likely long, but you can probably include; using others for profits, career progression, gratification, and self promotion. I've experienced those things and more. Perhaps you have, too. Whilst that's sad, particularly as the diabetes world is focused around health, it's not very surprising. This is the Internet, of course!

Part of the online diabetes community is GBDoc. You're probably aware of it if you stumbled upon this post via a link on one of my socials. I've had a lot of involvement in that community and, again, it's been tremendous. When I began tweeting about diabetes, I was very determined to not involve myself with any community or organisation. That probably lasted about a month! and after a year or so, I was asked to be a volunteer along with several others. Volunteers have come and gone in the last 5 years. They had their reasons and their departures didn't affect me. We remained friends, largely, and some are still kicking around on socials today.

And now it's my turn to depart.

I've simply lost the motivation to continue to freely give my time to GBDoc. There are reasons for that and there are absolutely a select group of people who are behind those reasons. To detail each would result in a very long blog post and it would probably create an online inferno. My own personal attacks have included accusations of stigmatising others, subversive posts that target others, discriminating against others who are not British, not fact-checking things I retweet (because I'm CNN, obviously)... and I'm going to stop there because even as I type those things, and even after some time has passed, I feel affected by those accusations and the shocking levels of entitlement to tell me how I run my own personal account. I'm not perfect. Indeed, there have been times when I've corrected or removed something I knew to be wrong or even something that could be misinterpreted. Over the years, I've listened to others and made apologies for my own errors and, unnecessarily, the misinterpretations of others. Those instances were on Twitter (now X) which has never really been the easiest place to read tone from or gain much from in the way of great detail - unless you have a verified account and you love writing essays, of course!

I'm not looking for sympathy. However, I feel sorry for my friend, Jules. She's well known for living with some serious conditions which are exacerbated by stress. To listen to her breaking and tearful about the whole saga was very tough. The non-apology and the carry-on-regardless nature of those involved was bewildering. "Bewildering" was the best I could muster after deleting various expletives. Of course, you should form your own judgements if you wish, but from someone "on the inside" I know the hurtful remarks made about GBDoc volunteers (managed by Jules) were so far removed from reality. I hope that she'll come back one day. I'm sure the community will continue to thrive in whatever guise. 

There is much more I could add to this post. I may follow up at a later date. There will, of course, be more blog posts on other subjects in the days, weeks and months to come. If you're from GBDoc, it's been lovely to volunteer for you since 2018. Stay well. 

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The Blue Tick

It's been a couple of months since I took "the plunge" to verify my Twitter account. Of course, that's now a verified X account following the rebranding at Musk Inc. It has raised a few questions and conversations, primarily "why?!" especially as the recent changes at this platform have caused many to move to other areas of the Internet for their socials. I thought that I'd clear things up with a blog post, instead of writing a really long tweet... xeet? Whatever.

In today's digital age, social media platforms have become powerful tools for advocacy and awareness campaigns. Twitter, with its extensive reach and real-time engagement, stands out as a platform that can significantly amplify the voice of advocates. For individuals advocating for diabetes awareness, being verified on Twitter holds immense importance. Twitter verification is crucial for diabetes advocates, especially those (like me) who are not professional advocates. Below, I'll look at how it enhances credibility, increases visibility, and facilitates meaningful connections within the diabetes community.

• Credibility Amplification: Whether we like it or not, for many, verification on Twitter symbolises authenticity and credibility. For diabetes advocates, whose primary goal is to provide accurate information and create awareness, being verified adds an extra layer of trust for their followers. Verified accounts are perceived as authoritative sources of information, allowing advocates to spread accurate details about diabetes management, treatment options, and lifestyle changes with more impact.

• Enhanced Visibility: Verified accounts are more likely to appear at the top of search results and in relevant conversations. For diabetes advocates, this visibility boost is essential in ensuring their messages reach a broader audience. With the ever-increasing volume of content on social media, standing out from the noise is crucial. Verification ensures that the important messages of diabetes advocates are not lost in the crowd, enabling them to effectively reach people who need accurate information about the condition.

• Access to Features: Twitter verification comes with access to advanced features, such as analytics and insights into tweet performance. This data can be incredibly valuable for diabetes advocates, as it helps them understand what type of content resonates most with their audience. This information can be used to tailor their advocacy efforts, refine their messaging, and optimise their engagement strategies.

• Collaboration Opportunities: Verified accounts are more likely to be approached for collaborations, partnerships, and joint initiatives. For diabetes advocates, this means increased opportunities to collaborate with medical professionals, researchers, organisations, and other "influencers" in the healthcare space. Collaborations can lead to more comprehensive and impactful advocacy campaigns, furthering the cause of diabetes awareness.

• Building a Stronger Community: Verification status fosters a sense of community among advocates, creating a network of credible voices in the diabetes space. Verified advocates can connect more easily with each other, sharing insights, experiences, and strategies. This sense of camaraderie strengthens the overall impact of their advocacy efforts and encourages the exchange of knowledge within the diabetes community.

• Countering Misinformation: This is one of the major pulls for me to be verified. Diabetes advocates often find themselves combating misinformation and myths about the condition. A verified status on Twitter empowers advocates to debunk false information with authority and credibility. As misinformation spreads easily on social media, having verified advocates actively participating in these discussions is essential for steering the conversation in the right direction.

In a world where social media has become an integral part of advocacy, Twitter verification holds undeniable significance for diabetes advocates. The benefits range from amplifying credibility and visibility to enabling collaboration and providing access to valuable insights. By becoming verified, diabetes advocates can leverage their status to create a more informed, connected, and empowered diabetes community. As the digital landscape continues to evolve, being verified on Twitter is not just a badge of honour; it's a tool that can drive meaningful change and make a lasting impact on diabetes awareness.

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The Importance of Diabetes Community

It has been around six years since I took a deep breath and pressed the record button on the video app of my phone. I blundered through an introduction video, deleted it, wrote a script, blundered through that and deleted it. Eventually, I decided on something that was a few minutes long and sent it to my YouTube channel. Of course, nothing happened. It did get a few views! Really... just a few, but that was enough to inspire me to make more and seek out others who live with Type 1 Diabetes. I'm so very glad that I did.

The last six years have been eye opening, jaw dropping, heart wrenching, gut churning, annoying and, most importantly, absolutely wonderful. The good, the bad and the ugly have all visited my social media accounts. The vast majority of the visits have been good and that's why I'm writing this new blog post. The good has had such a profound effect upon my diabetes, my outlook, my social life and my confidence. The good comes in the form of community.

I think it's only fair that I start with GBDoc. You probably knew that was coming! But, what a remarkable community of people and such longevity! GBDoc has been around for far longer than I have in diabetes social media, over a decade apparently. It has had many guises, many volunteers, a few leaders, thousands of members, several platforms, a website, controversy, love, hate and friendship. Sometimes, it feels like Eastenders with boluses - only the acting is better and the story lines are more interesting. Drama aside, the support and information from GBDoc has been incredible. I wonder where I might be in my T1D journey without this community? Where might you be? I suspect much worse off, maybe less knowledgeable, struggling for tech access, more isolated...

...GBDoc isn't the only diabetes community. Different countries have their own communities and that makes perfect sense as healthcare, access to meds and tech, societal differences, etc can differ hugely between nations. Some communities try to cover a global "scene" and that's cool too. From other people, other countries, other values, other uses of language, we can learn a great deal alongside (for me at least) helping to recognise privilege.

Communities are very fluid places. As time passes, people come and go perhaps because they have gained the help and information they need, perhaps they didn't get what they expected, maybe they died! Many reasons can cause the disappearance of an individual from an online community just as many reasons can bring about new faces. 

In my six years of community engagement I have gained so many friends - I really couldn't list them all without forgetting a few. Some have been friends for almost the entire six years and I hope they remain so for the rest of our days. Some have drifted away, a few decided to not be friends at all after a while. That seems like very normal human behaviour and I'm quite accepting of it. Community makes friendship easier to develop and blossom. If you're feeling isolated and lonely with your diabetes then the community could be the answer.

 Away from being bestie mates with lots of new people, your diabetes could benefit hugely from community engagement. Hybrid Closed Loop (not an artificial pancreas) looks likely to be a hot topic for the years ahead in the UK. Yet, most diabetics are not using that technology right now. That means a lot of learning and understanding is on the horizon for people who may want to try HCL (criteria dependant, naturally). The same was true of Libre, CGMs, Smart Pens and Insulin Pumps - less complex than HCL, perhaps, but the usage experiences of peers have proved invaluable to many.

So, you've got new friends and new tech. Now what? Maybe you struggle with the mental burden of having diabetes? Maybe you've heard of talking therapy? That's exactly what a community can offer. Put your grown up pants on and start talking, tweeting, posting, whatever! You'll be surprised at who understands your issues and reaches out to offer an ear. And it helps! To not feel alone in your struggles can ease your burden even if no immediate solution is found. What is the old saying about a problem shared is a problem halved?

Do you need more? Well, community doesn't always mean serious. I've had some hugely fun days out with my friends from GBDoc, we play quizzes, fantasy football and cruel but funny practical jokes on each other! Other skills are shared via a Stitch Club. Books are read at the same time, films and TV shows via watch-a-longs, hobbies and interests shared and enhanced because of new diabetic friends who just enjoy the same things. Maybe you enjoy gaming? gotcha! Art? gotcha! The list of interests is huge and you'll likely find someone who enjoys the things that you do with no relevance to diabetes apart from being in the wonky pancreas gang.

By the way, serious can also be lovely. Some friendships have developed into more and dating, even marriage, has happened. 

If life dealt you a bad hand with diabetes, you can still win the pot if you play your cards right. I'm turning into Bruce Forsyth. Good blog, good blog. 

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Diabetes+

If you're a frequent user of social media platforms, and your use of such platforms is based around Diabetes, then you're probably well versed in the terminology and acronyms which surround our condition.

It can be a confusing place for the newbie. There are docs everywhere but they're not medically qualified. T1D, T2D, LADA, MDI, BG, TBR, TIR, HbA1c... Diaversery, Diabuddy, Diabestie... My own accounts are littered with a bewildering array of references to Banting Juice and feeling Hypo Twatted and all under the influence of caffeine.

I love it all. If you can't work out these little sayings and acronyms then it's perfectly fine to ask. Put a hashtag at the front of those words and you might get a bigger audience. Twitter, my favourite platform, has a character limit so it makes sense to use such acronyms when tweeting. So far, I've resisted the urge to use BJ when discussing Banting Juice (insulin). There are puerile minds on the Internet. Not mine, obvs!

That brings me along to Diabetes+ It's not a term that I've used before but it's one that springs to my mind when I notice others discussing a positive (+) aspect of life in relation to their Diabetes. How can there be a positive to Diabetes!? You exclaim, finger hovering over the 'Unfollow Diabetic Dad' button. Positives aren't to be found within having the condition, at least not that I've found, but within the new experiences and relationships that the condition allows.

You don't need to look far for a new positive from Diabetes. It could be that your management of the condition is improved because of simply reading the social media messages of others, absorbing information and keeping up to date with the latest happenings on Planet D. That alone is a superb thing. If that's your Diabetes+ then I'm really pleased for you. My personal Diabetes+ goes much, much further.

Reading and engaging with peers has been a huge positive for me, too. Beyond that I've discovered, to my surprise, that I quite like people and meeting them, getting to know them and in some cases becoming good friends with them. It's always good to have something in common, right? misery loves company or something. I'm kidding! I've never had a miserable experience when meeting a fellow diabetic or a person who works within Diabetes, business or healthcare. I've never experienced this before. At various points in my life, I've met with many people on a social level; Work colleagues, friends dating back to school days, football friends, poker player friends, the list is long and within each "category" there were a good number of people who left me feeling negative about my encounters with them. Personalities and opinions do clash, of course but it appears to happen to a much lesser extent within the peer support and friendship circles of Diabetes. I wonder if that's because we have an understanding of the struggle which we might not with the organic insulin growers of the world?

Prior to fully engaging with my Diabetes, I was somewhat of a recluse. I certainly had and still have, to a lesser degree now, social anxiety. That lesser degree has reduced massively and continues to do so following each "meet up" or conference. It's like being fed a little more confidence each time.

I know, I talk about Diabetes a lot. I do that YouTube thing, I'm all up in your grill about Diabetes whenever you try to get a minutes peace on Twitter, I've written things (you're reading one now) I've been on the radio and I've many irons in many fires. That doesn't mean that social anxiety, in the flesh, isn't a very real thing. 

Prior to the Covid-19 pandemic, my confidence levels were very high when it came to meeting others. Now we've been locked away for more than a year, I would be a liar to suggest that I feel just as I did at the beginning of 2020. There has been a step back but I'm determined to rediscover that Diabetes+ again by meeting more people who have Diabetes, when it becomes safe to do so. And we're nearly there! I'm not far away from my second dose of the Covid vaccine and a few weeks after that? I'll be as protected as I can be from that bastard of a disease.

Baby steps, though. The plan is to meet a couple of other friends in a park, distance, drink coffee (tea if you prefer, Carolyn) and chat. As the UK opens up, I hope more occasions like that will happen and my Diabetes+ continues to grow for many years to come.

I hope this blog has been a tale of positivity. Do you have a Diabetes+ ? Go ahead and tell me about it in the comments box below or just send me a tweet.

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Diabetic Superstar

 There are two words in the title of this blog. I'm fine with one, less fine with the other.

"Oh, no! He's going to talk about language matters!"

Maaaaaaybe. Let's see.

Of course, I'm fine with "Diabetic" and always have been. It's a part of my social media username and it's written in the tattoo on my arm. You might say that I'm relaxed about being referred to as a Diabetic. I know some are not and that's equally fine with me. 

My grumble comes over the word "Superstar". It's not only Superstar, it might be "Up and coming rising star" or perhaps "Shining star". Stars get a lot of copy when it comes to exaggerated expressions of praise, don't you think? And praise is good! Praise is right. Praise works. Individuals who do great things undoubtedly deserve praise.

Where the line is between expressing thanks & offering praise and creating a celebrity is what worries me. Celebrity offers many trappings which are hard to resist. I won't use my blog to name-drop but, in a previous life, I've known a few good people, friendly people to become wealthy and famous and subsequently become a very different person. That's a shame but I understand how the voice of an ego can change a person.

So, you're wondering how that might be related to diabetes and who I'm talking about! Firstly, I'm not interested in cryptic messages, subtweets or carry overs from the schoolyard. That's not my domain. I'm blunt and direct much to my cost, at times. I'm not referring to specific individuals here. I'm referring to what appears to be a growing trend of using such superlatives, particularly when aimed towards advocates in the diabetes community.

I've seen such terms directed towards HCPs on Twitter. They deflect it superbly! Often responding with "I'm just doing my job" or similar yet the majority know that's not true and many HCPs go above and beyond the calling of their salaries. They deserve praise but I suspect/hope they'll agree, they're not celebrities and feel uncomfortable to be slapped with the "star" label.

Advocates seem less worried and that worries me.

I think it's impossible for any advocate to truly represent the best wishes of such a huge number of people, such as those living with diabetes. Even a specific type of diabetes, such as Type 1 has almost half a million people trying to manage the condition in the UK alone. The whole subject of advocacy leaves me uneasy but when any one advocate is held on a pedestal, I feel even more uneasy about inflated egos, self appointed voices of authority, individuals who might speak for others, speaking for an entire community without engaging with any more than a tiny percentage of their peers. 

A shift in diabetes advocacy would be a great thing. I think many have heard me and others suggesting this and are acting upon it. A shift in how we praise advocates might also need to be reconsidered. While language matters in regards to being respectful, I think it also matters in the avoidance of creating a celebrity culture, a culture which cannot be good for communities of people living with diabetes. Within the #DOC and #GBDoc it only recently came to light that advocacy resulted in the abuse and sexual harassment of women, as "fame" and status was used to coerce and manipulate members of those communities.

What do you think? Are we in danger of creating celebrities from the world of diabetes advocacy and do we need to be more careful about how we praise those in that arena?

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Fear

 The difficulties of T1D have been chewed over and over for years. New difficulties appear, from time to time, as people become comfortable or brave enough to start talking about them openly. I think we've seen that, recently with eating disorders and the mental health impacts on individuals living with Type 1 Diabetes. 

That's good, right? If we talk and share experiences then others don't feel alone, HCPs take notice, treatments and referrals can happen, we can get better or maintain health. I've always been a sharer in regards to my diabetes and, if you know me well enough you know that I encourage others to talk as openly as they care to.

It's not easy to share. At some point you'll probably be on the receiving end of negativity. Eventually, somebody will likely tell you that you are "attention seeking" or "showing off". That may be true. Social media is a place for seeking attention for engagement and I'm certainly guilty of showing off... I'm a sharer, remember? but for the right reasons. You may also be on the receiving end of self doubt. Did you share too much? Eek! Perhaps it's time for a social media break or to even abandon your accounts entirely and become a lurker, a reader, no longer sharing because it's safer that way. That happens. It's a shame when it does but it's also understandable. The Internet can be a vicious place, a scary place. #DOC is not an exception.

Social media fear is certainly a thing. I know I've written many tweets and decided against sending them. Sometimes I light fires on Twitter but I really do prefer the peace. Honestly, I do!

Fear plays a huge role in living with diabetes. I've read countless tweets from people who are frightened of what's happening to them and what might happen to them. The eye clinic, the lasers, the blood tests, are my kidneys okay? why have I got pins and needles in my foot? That chest pain.... Perhaps some of those are familiar to you. And your reaction? Fear.

Fear of complications and fear of dying seems natural. After 36 years T1D and a good taste of eye complications, I still "feel the fear". I don't think about things each day but, from time to time I get that moment where everything stops and my brain is entirely focused on what I have. Then it's gone. That briefest moment containing all the fear, all the self pity, all the anger and sadness. It might only be a split second! It feels like I've swallowed an anvil. Then it's gone.

What's the solution? 

I suspect the answer is in acceptance and to expedite acceptance probably means therapy, if not for all then for many. 

Right now, I don't think therapy would serve much purpose for me. I do, however think the newly diagnosed should be seeing a therapist as routinely as a dietician, perhaps even more frequently. And for as long as it takes. 

I reached the stage of acceptance a long time ago. Fear still crippled me when eye complications appeared on the horizon. My head went into the sand and instead of facing up to some uncomfortable weeks and months and coming out relatively unscathed, I hid away and my reward was a lifetime of visual impairment after two years of surgeries and pain. 

Would the news of eye complications and an offer of therapy have helped me? Possibly. I may have faced the fear of lasers and injections instead of pretending it wasn't happening. 

Could it help others? Possibly.

Is it time for newly diagnosed diabetics and people diagnosed with complications from diabetes to be offered immediate, on site, therapy as a matter of urgency and total normality?

You tell me! The comments box is below.