Diabetic Dad's Stuff

Sunday, June 26, 2022

Time


Have you ever entered your diabetes diagnosis date into that online form, which gives you your estimated number of finger pricks, injections, etc? You get a nice little info-graphic to share with your peers to highlight just how many times you've pierced your own skin in the name of staying healthy. I seem to remember there are hours of sleep lost and estimated hypos, too. It's interesting, I guess, to see how quickly big numbers can build up and when you've racked up a good number of years with diabetes, those numbers become enormous.

Perhaps those numbers will be less of an issue, as more and more people seem to be moving towards technology to manage their T1D (and T2D in some cases). Changing a pump set around 104 times a year seems less impactful, and a CGM 26 times? Definitely less of a smack in the chops compared to 3500 finger pricks. The burden of diabetes is spoken about a lot and I still think that showing your burden in a simple info-graphic can help others to understand you and your condition better.

The burden of diabetes is a multi-faceted affair for me but the weight which hangs heaviest on my shoulders is time. That hasn't always been the case, though. Diabetes played a very minimal part in my life during my teens and early 20s. That is until it didn't and I woke up in a hospital bed or the back of an ambulance - it played a pretty big part, then. I've told the stories from those days on many other occasions, I won't bore you with them in this blog. Time, though! It's a precious thing. We're all born with a finite amount of it after all. It makes sense to make the absolute most of our time while we're still stinking up the place but diabetes just loves to steal those hours, days, maybe years from us. How can we minimise that lost time and maximise our life enjoyment?

I had to pause after that last sentence. I fear becoming some kind of life coach w*nker.

Let's look at the easy option; Ignore it. I don't mean completely ignore everything in regards to your T1D because you'll be struggling and gravely ill within a few days. However, doing the minimum by taking your injections, treating the inevitable hypos and hoping the hypers will go away by themselves. A terrible idea, I know, and exactly how I lived with the condition for far too long. I got off lightly, I could've easily died, you don't want to try this option. You may get away with it for a while until you don't.

A harder option; Carry on with your current management but adjust other aspects of life. You MIGHT find that works for you if other areas of your life are burdensome. So, work? relationships? toxic friends? bad habits? Cleaning up your life might be a good idea in general but it doesn't address the time burden of your diabetes and, it might be argued, freeing up more time from other aspects of life could allow diabetes to take up even more of your precious life - it's very needy like that! Pursue happy living as much as possible of course but this option feels like you'll be ignoring the diabetes time burden and will it eventually bite you on the bum? With a heavy period of burnout to follow?

A sensible option; Address it and find solutions. Start at the top! What's taking up the absolute most time in your life in regards to diabetes? Waiting rooms, probably! I jest. For me it was the finger pricking. I could see the benefits of frequent checks and I still check, today but far less often. The solution was technology. At that stage it was Flash and because I spend a lot of my waking life with a phone in my hand it was never an issue to scan a sensor - it still isn't! compared to foil wrappers, strips, lancets, prickers, meters and losing each of them at various points. Next, injections - I was injecting up to 8 times per day, pre-pump. It's time consuming stuff and, if you know me and my various limitations, eventually very burdensome. The gift of Pumpy McPumpface arrived and that burden was lifted alongside a stack of other QoL improvements.  I'm sure you'll have your own diabetes time burdens - feel free to tell me about them in the comments below or on social media.

The change from finger pricking and MDI to CGM and pump has had a profound impact on my life for the better. It also highlighted two things to me:

- Technology is a force for good and for living a better life with diabetes.
- Having more time means less burden (of course) which means less stress, which leads to great improvements in mood, sleep and general health. 

Tech won't solve all our time burdens. Hypos and hypers will happen, complications might happen, life events will always happen and they're famous for impacting negatively on diabetes! Sometimes there is little or nothing we can do but our best to get by. Others, however, can help to reduce our time burdens.

HCPs, primarily the decision makers, As your Clinical Lead has said many times! Don't block access. In the UK every T1D has the right to Flash or a CGM under the NHS. I'm astounded at stories of people being refused access to that technology even today. If your patient wants it then provide it. And pumps? You may have read about my fight for NHS pump funding (seriously time consuming!) Step away from the criteria, talk to the patient and find out why they need a pump. I promise that they didn't decide on a whim and that it takes a lot of courage to start that conversation. Even if their A1c is great, don't dismiss the idea because that's not great care. Great care considers personal circumstances alongside health conditions and A1c & TIR. Are you going to improve their long term outcome in life and not just their A1c? 

We all know that Looping will be the main treatment for T1D in the coming years and delaying access to the tech which facilitates Looping helps nobody but might hurt the patient. 

Friends and Family, You'll never fully understand T1D because, unless you have it, that's impossible. So, a great way to reduce our time burden is to not question our decision making, don't ask why we're hypo, try to avoid making us feel guilty if we woke you or asked you to help us. Talk to us when you have questions, of course but avoid 20 quick-fire Qs when we're trying to stop a severe low. Try to understand that a treated hypo doesn't mean we'll be our usual selves straight away. Our mood might change with our blood glucose level, it's probably not about you. Our medical appointments, although frequent and tedious, can be very stressful for us, try to avoid highlighting them as an issue and an inconvenience to you. Doing those things can help us to feel supported and less likely to explain, or even apologise for, each diabetes related incident. 

Peers, This one is super easy - Don't judge. That includes diets, exercise, lifestyles... everything! Don't offer negative remarks to another because they do things in their own way. It's never helpful! At the very least you'll look like a judgemental, mean spirited, bully. Live your own life, share your experiences, if somebody asks for advice or opinions well then is your chance to vent your splaining spleen. Shooting down an innocent peer can result in them questioning their management, make unnecessary changes and hiding away when they have a question and need support - all adding to their time burden of living with diabetes. Be the voice of encouragement and empathy.

As you might have seen, a conflict has broken out in Ukraine as Russia has invaded that country. The scenes on TV and on social media are horrifying. What can we do? Well, I don't think there is a wrong way to help if you donate to charities who are active in helping the people of Ukraine. I support many charities but one which has always had my heart is MSF. Medecins Sans Frontieres translates as Doctors Without Borders. When it comes to the health of others in disaster areas, war zones and the like then I think we all have a duty to do what we can to help and help those who directly help! such as MSF. With that in mind, all donations to me via Buy Me a Coffee and all the pennies generated through the ads dotted around my pages will be donated to MSF. I will make up the difference for the fees taken by PayPal and Buy Me a Coffee. That will run until further notice, no time frames and possibly until Ukraine is a free country again. Thank you for reading my blog. 

Friday, June 10, 2022

Some Time In The Sunshine

 


Here comes the sun, doodoo doodoo. In the mostly gloomy isles of the United Kingdom, the sun can be a rare sight - you've probably noticed, analytics tell me that 80% of you are from the UK. So, when it appears, it's understandable that many get a bit giddy about it... then a bit red and regretful. Remember your SPF50 especially you, my fellow sexy baldies.

The benefits of some sunshine are well documented, go ahead and Google it for all that research.

Why am I blathering on about the sun? Tell you about all the Twitter drama?! Where are the shallow graves?! Godammit get me The President! 

I know you've seen the tweet and it would be ridiculous of me to just ignore it and carry on regardless. So, a blog for a one time addressing of the issue and a bit more about the sunshine before my sunburned head gets too much and I change my mind.

I spelt out a few facts on Twitter, 3 or 4 days ago. What you've read there are "cliff notes" of what I have found to be a prolonged campaign of lies, accusations and a seemingly wilful ignorance of facts to cherry-pick things I have tweeted and touched upon in blogs. All of that through the very grown up method of sub-tweets and indirect references in a blog and who knows what else?! 

Alright, I'm an adult and I can handle the strange-strangers on the Internet. It's likely that most of you with a social media presence will have encountered a level of trolling and trash behaviour. The bigger your presence, the more gets thrown your way - them's the rules! All of that aside, what upset me the most, what really disturbed me was the stories from others. If I had hair, it would curl. In the interests of safety for my peers and to be respectful of their confiding in me, I am not going to document any of those incidents. There are lots and many pre-date my involvement in the #DOC and #GBDoc. None of those things are my business to pursue through complaints or authorities.

My business? Amid the screenshots and outrage from a mutual friend, an admission that I am/was being stalked. Although I am not directly mentioned, it seems clear that the date of the tweet coincides with something I said - If it wasn't me then know that you might be being stalked. Whatever, one of us is getting the stalky stalk treatment. Of course, I've kept that particular screenshot image which proudly states how friends are reading my published content to "report back" to the blocked account in question. Oh, I didn't mention that? Yes, blocked for 18 months following independent people making complaints about this individual over the year or so prior, to me. I already had them muted for that period and at no stage have I followed their Twitter account. A search showed some brief exchanges, several years ago - all seemed reasonable and polite. It appears this individual took my blocking poorly and so the accusations began. To the mutual, time to stop offering fuel to this unnecessary fire. I forgive you.

Trolling and "fly-by" abuse is one thing. I prefer that to the prolonged campaign from this individual - a campaign which has left me contemplating not only leaving Twitter but all diabetes social media. I rarely knee-jerk react to anything and some time away seemed like a good idea. I sought counsel from different orgs and friends with experience in harassment and the process of ending it. The support was tremendous and I now have avenues to consider, some of which might seem very dramatic. At this stage, with the dust settled, I am swayed towards doing the good things and putting my focus into positive activities around diabetes and in peer support. The prospect of the dramatic, potentially impacting very negatively on another person's livelihood and reputation doesn't hold great appeal especially as some time has passed and calm restored. And! Do you know what? despite it all, this person is a fellow T1D and if me not even trying is causing such stress and anger and paranoia then I think purposefully pushing could be disastrous. 

There it ends. And do please let it end, friends. Please do not start your own vendettas and make life difficult for anybody else. You're all better than that.

Sun, sun, sun, here it comes...

...today, I spent a few hours with my friend Carolyn to talk about some help I'm providing to her son, diabetes and the recent events. Talking is great therapy! and I'm grateful to have such amazing friends who have the calmest of minds. It was a beautiful day and the sunshine can bring a new perspective to life. My head looks like a blood orange but let's not get bogged down with who will be in agonising pain in bed tonight when I've topped up my Vitamin D and rediscovered some joy.

You read my last blog, didn't you? I pasted around 20 quotes from different people. That hasn't really touched the surface and in no way can I reply to everybody individually, I'm a slow typer! So, to you all:

I really appreciate your support and your concern has touched me beyond words. Thank you.

I'd like to highlight that many men offered me their time, probably with worries over my mental well being. Outstanding! I'm incredibly proud of you for doing that, fellas. It's that sort of reaching out which can stop harm and even save lives. Please don't stop doing that when you're able. There was little to no danger of me doing anything but that might not always be the case for me or others. Ladies, I appreciate you reaching out, of course. You've been incredibly kind. I am blessed with the strongest friendships and. sometimes, it feels like an army of Banting Juice Botherers has got my back...

...that is what you prefer to be called, isn't it? See you on Twitter, Drama Llamas!

As you might have seen, a conflict has broken out in Ukraine as Russia has invaded that country. The scenes on TV and on social media are horrifying. What can we do? Well, I don't think there is a wrong way to help if you donate to charities who are active in helping the people of Ukraine. I support many charities but one which has always had my heart is MSF. Medecins Sans Frontieres translates as Doctors Without Borders. When it comes to the health of others in disaster areas, war zones and the like then I think we all have a duty to do what we can to help and help those who directly help! such as MSF. With that in mind, all donations to me via Buy Me a Coffee and all the pennies generated through the ads dotted around my pages will be donated to MSF. I will make up the difference for the fees taken by PayPal and Buy Me a Coffee. That will run until further notice, no time frames and possibly until Ukraine is a free country again. Thank you for reading my blog. 

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Wednesday, June 8, 2022

Your Words

 


For your love...






















...I am forever grateful